Quotes Of The Week

19Aug 2015

It’s been a stressful summer, dealing with a multitude of issues that required my full attention. It’s kept me away from writing and I must say I have missed it!

 Regular blog posts will start up again next week, but in the meantime it’s time to get back to Quote of the Week mini-blogs!

 This week’s quote comes from Anna Quindlen one of the first three Op-Ed writers for the New York Times who said:

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

 Those words hit home for me BIG time. For most of my life I lived in such a state of fear of making a slight misstep in anything I did that it kept me from really experiencing life the way most teenagers and college kids did.

I obsessed over trying to do everything perfectly that I completely neglected the beautiful human being inside of me. What I have found over the past 5 years, is that the more I allow myself to be imperfect and to show my flaws… the person I REALLY am is finally getting to shine.

Take this week’s quote to heart, give up trying to be perfect in the eyes of your friends, family or society. Instead begin working on being the unique, vibrant and imperfect YOU!

That person is one who will be happy, healthy and alive… mayhaps for the very first time.

So go forth today and seek out the person you are inside!

22Jun 2015

Today’s Quote of the Week comes from an anonymous source. It is also the official announcement of something very special to my heart.

It isn’t big to make others feel small

I selected this quote because growing up I was the victim of bullying. I was made to feel less than the person I was and it scarred me for life. Because of those experiences I am very sensitive to any activity that may cause another human to feel bullied.  Continue reading

15Jun 2015

Today’s quote of the week comes from American novelist, poet and playwright Gertrude Stein who said:

Let me listen to me and not to them.

Short, sweet and to the point this quote resonates with the base message I started Beyond Quarter Life in my first blog post, which focused on the typical life blueprint or what society tells you to do.

In this quote Gertrude is granting herself the permission to listen to her own heart. To value what she is saying about her life and what she wants to do more than what others will say.

It’s a great remainder to give credence to our own voice, for it knows better than anyone else on the planet what truly matters to you. Too often in our lives we get bogged down by conventional wisdom or the sage advice of respected friends and family, and neglect to listen to what is going on in our very own head and heart.

There is an intrinsic knowledge of what feels right or what feels wrong for our lives that we have all been gifted with at birth. It stays with us forever, but what are not gifted to us are the skills to listen to those feelings. That is a skill that needs to be fostered and trained.

The key component to building that skill is giving yourself permission to listen to YOU. That is the crux of Gertrude Stein’s quote… permission to listen.

Who have you been listening to this month? This year? This decade? Look back on the decisions you’ve made and see if they were made because of what other people told you or because of what you told yourself?

Reflect upon your answers, explore them fully and listen to what YOU have to say. You may just find some answers that you’ve been looking for, for a long while.

08Jun 2015

This week’s quote of the week comes from the British penologist (a person who studies the science of prisons) and former Commissioner of Prisons Sir Alexander Paterson who said

When a man is sufficiently motivated, discipline will take care of itself.

This quote struck a chord with me as the past two weeks I have really been exploring the concepts of willpower, motivation and discipline. Two weeks ago I had a health scare, that thankfully turned out to be nothing, but it gave me a crash course in the interconnectedness of those three disciplines. 

I’m lucky enough to be a person who over the past few years implemented a number of strong habits that promotes a positive mental attitude. In addition over the past few months I implemented a new set of eating habits, one that requires some discipline to stick to.

 When my health scare came up I freaked out! Yet I took some deep breaths and harnessed every single tip, trick or hack to stay positive. On top of that I made sure to keep to my health eating habit. It took EVERY single once and fiber of my willpower to not lose it.

The next day when I got the news that there was nothing wrong with me, I let myself be the normal me again and all the fears and feelings I’d fought off yesterday hit me… and I realized JUST how much I had been freaking out.

The end result is I expended SO much of my willpower to be disciplined and STICK to my positive habits to avoid freaking out because I was MOTIVATED to keep a level head as I dealt with this issue.

You are capable of AMAZING feats when properly motivated. A motivated person can overcome countless hurdles in their pursuit of excellence. If you are struggling to accomplish your goals, ask yourself what motivated me to pursue this? 

My guess is that if you have to ask that question, it can be improved! So find your A+ Motivatior and GO LIVE AN AMAZING LIFE!!!

12May 2015

This week’s quote of the week comes from William Daniel’s character Mr. Feeny in the final episode of Boy Meets World who said…

Believe in yourselves. Dream. Try. Do Good

Since I first heard that quote it became one of my life mantras. It instantly resonated with me and seared itself upon my heart.

Until recently though I never truly understood why, in the past year or so though I have really come to understand what that quote represents to me personally. It relates to my purpose in this world which is to help people find out who they truly are and allow them to dream. Continue reading

04May 2015

This week’s quote of the week comes from author and Professor of Psychology at the University of California- Riverside, Sonya Lyubomirsky who said…

All that is required to become an optimist is to have the goal and to practice it. The more you rehearse optimistic thoughts, the more ‘natural’ and ‘ingrained’ they will become. With time they will be part of you, and you will have made yourself into an altogether different person.

I choose this quote because it represents my life experience. In 2010 I was at the end of the line, my world was spinning out of control and I was consumed day in and day out with negative thoughts.  Continue reading

20Apr 2015

This week’s quote of the week comes from the character Sebastian Blood on the television show “Arrow”. The line was written by Andrew Kreisberg & Wendy Mericle. 

Crucible, Arrow

I was talking with a friend this morning and the topic of crucibles came up and this quote instantly popped to mind. Since this morning it’s been rattling around in my mind so I decided it was a sign to make it the quote of the week! Continue reading

23Mar 2015

Today’s quote of the week comes from transformational speaker and life architect Jason Goldberg who said…

 The past and future are both concepts and NEITHER actually exist right now

The minute I heard Jason speak this quote it struck a chord with me and I immediately wrote it down. This quote contains within it a powerful message.

For most of my life and your life the decisions we make were based around one of two things. One, where we want to be in the future or two, what has happened to us in the past. Yet in this moment… neither exist, why do we give them so much power? Continue reading

16Mar 2015

Today’s quote of the week comes from Sir Ken Robinson, an English author, speaker and education advocate who said…

I believe this passionately: that we don’t grow into creativity, we grow out of it. Or rather, we get educated out if it.

I connected deeply with this quote having personally experienced the education he references. When I was a child I LOVED reading, still do in fact. I also loved playing pretend in the yard and did so until years after most children stopped. In fact I believe my last memory of playing pretend was when I was 12 years old on vacation in Vermont, defending the land from an impending Troll attack with a battalion of Elvish Archers and Human Swordsmen.

That was 19 years ago and I’ve never felt the same level of creativity and imagination since. When I was 12 and younger I was engrossed in fantasy novels, roleplaying games, playing my trumpet/piano and a host of other artistic pursuits. It fostered my imagination, but over the years I was educated to fall in line with accepted standards of what was or was not ok.

We are educated in math, history and science, told about the “safe” career paths… lawyers, doctors, accountants or businessman in general. It’s so rare to be encouraged or taught to foster a pursuit of writing (English) or to go out and become a photographer or other type of artist.

The system we are raised in educates us to fall into one of a few general categories, none of which are the arts. The amount of focus put on some subjects predisposes us to all think the same way… or at least tries to the best of its ability.

If we are to foster creativity in our life it must come from outside avenues, both in our youth and in our adulthood. As most of you reading this are enrolled in or have graduated from college the education has already been set. The challenge now is for you to begin to be creative again, so I ask you to push yourself out of your comfort zone.

Go ahead and write a poem, sketch a drawing that’s been lurking around in your brain, belt out a tune that you just feel in your soul. They don’t have to be good poems, drawings or songs. They just have to be YOUR’S. Take ownership of them, get those creative juices flowing and keep them flowing day after day.

There is transformative power in creativity and it combined with your formal education will begin to create magic within your own world.

creativity

Credit: flickr/smemon

09Mar 2015

This week’s quote of the week comes from Tuli Kupferberg, American beat poet and musician, who said 

“When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.”

What this quote represents to me is our internal ability to create our very own reality. As human beings we are predisposition to be creatures of habit. These habits once created are central to the life patterns we tend to follow.

I am all for having habits, as long as they support and create good environments. The danger comes when a habit creates a pattern that create poor or frustrating environments and that is where this quote comes into play.

If you are feeling stuck, unsatisfied or just plain frustrated with where your life is and how it looks. Take time to examine the patterns you are repeating day in and day out, week in and week out, etc. Really focus on them and see which patterns support you and which ones are holding you back.

Old patterns yield old results

From there, take the bad patterns and decide to break them. Write down why they hold you back and what you can do to change the pattern. Once that occurs and you consistently begin executing your life in a different fashion the world in which you live will begin to alter itself.

You will find a different energy emanating from within you, your interactions with friends and family will be different and slowly but surely everything you see, hear and feel will be different.

Break your patterns… rebuild your world!